The story is called '15 Things All Dads of Daughters Should Know' by Justin Ricklefs, a father of four girls and a boy. Now that Little G is 4 - yes, this happened last week - I keep thinking about how she sees Mr H and I and if she will in fact base her future relationships on ours. It is an utterly scary thought. Yet one that creeps up in my mind now that she notices more things and she asks more questions.
We all want our kids to grow up feeling loved, secure and content, but I often forget that she should also understand that she is not the centre of everyone's world, or at least not at all times. Justin Ricklefs goes as far as saying "Love your wife, make time to date her, take her on trips, and show your kids that she is a bigger priority than they are".
I thought hard about this one, but ultimately I think he is right. One day my Little G will be all grown up and I'd like her to expect that much from her partner. I want for her to find someone who loves her unconditionally and above all else.
I have a couple of friends who are forever settling for the next guy, rather than hanging out for 'the' guy and so they waste their years in broken relationships that they are trying to make work when they were shaky from the outset. Of course all relationships have ups and downs, but I want Miss G to be choosy, to not settle for anything less than real love.
And now the pressure is all on Mr H and I to show her how to make each other the biggest priority so that one day she'll expect no less than that of her own partner. As parents we often forget that we are a couple first and parents next. As much as my husband often drives me crazy like nobody else in the world can, I also know that he is the one that I want to share my life with. Call me a masochist, but there we go.
As for Mr Ricklefs suggesting that Mr H has an influence on Little G's future partner...holy shit, the pressure is on you, my dear husband! If in 20 years time she brings home some loser I know who I'll take it up with... #joking #notjoking
|These two jokers! They drive me nuts, but they are my world.|